Is it alright to spank your children? I have been going back and forth with whether or not I think my daughter should be spanked. In the beginning I was totally against it only because of the influence of an outside party. At times I find it hard to spank my daughter in public. I am afraid someone will call the cops on me for child abuse. Now and days it seems the whole spanking issue has gotten way out of hand. I in no way condone child abuse but there is a difference between disciplining your children and abusing them.
I think children need a spanking every now and again. I look at all the kids today and they have no respect. They walk all over their parents and threaten to call the cops if they even touch them. They need to realize the parents are in charge and they are the child and as much as they think they know “everything” their parents have been around the block a few times and actually know what’s best for them.
I am now realizing spanking is just fine as long you do it appropriately. You should never spank out of anger, come back to the punishment after you have cooled down. Spank for the more serious punishments, do not just spank for every little thing they do. Such as running into the road, or hurting an animal; things that can be harmful to themselves or others. I do not think spanking should be your only form of punishment. Another method should be used to go along with the spanking. All in all if used properly I think spanking is good and can help in disciplining children.
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I agree that spanking your children can be beneficial in most instances. I used to be against spanking, when I used to get spanked or get the belt I said I would never do that to my kids. Now that I'm older and have a child I agree that spanking can be a very useful disciplinary tool. Like it or not kids learn very effectivley through pain and if they are being bad then spanking can quickly change their behaviour. I think the whole time out thing is dumb and is not as effective as people would like to believe. Now you can't go overboard to where it is abusive, but a kid needs a good slap every now and again. This is how you learn, say you touch something hot, it hurts like hell. Then you would never do it again because it hurts. Not saying that if you slap your kid once that they will always behave, but it will be in the back of their mind so they will definitely think twice before they get out of line because they know the consequences. And to the people who want to ostresize you for this then I say they can go to hell.
ReplyDeleteI would also have to agree. I do not like when kids get spanked for doing little things. I think that spanking should be used for more serious things like things that they know is bad and should not be doing. Also, i think it works well because they know that if they do this bad thing that they will feel pain after they have done it. Instead of just being set on the step where they don't even have to do anything. But like i said before the spanking should be used every once in awhile not for every little thing. Good topic because i hate when people abuse spanking.
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's as easy as saying to spank or not to spank. Really I think it depends more on the type of parent you're trying to be. How do you want to perceived by your children now and in the future? With all the stress spreading through out the world it probably adds, especially to a kid who thinks everything's a big deal.
ReplyDeleteI'm not a father. I can't say I know what's best for a child, but as I grew up I know the 'spanking', which I consider another form of hitting, to have distanced myself from my mom. But my dad wasn't around so maybe things will be different for you.
Think of it this was. You hit your kid cause he did wrong. That seems so primal. Now I think the best relationships come from communication, and if you and your child can't communicate maybe you'd want to read some books or see someone on how to improve your relationship.
But remember, everything is circumstantial and I've never had a kid. I can already tell you, I don't have the patience for a kid. Just a couple things to think about.
I Agree with spanking your children. As a kid i was spanked for big things i did. And i always thought back to that moment before i did something again. I agree that spanking should not be your only source of punishment.
ReplyDeleteSpanking your kid, to me is not that big of a deal. But to all the mothers who who shelter their kid make it into a big deal. For instance, Kate from Jon and Kate plus 8, she spanked one of her kids and some lady called the cops on her for child abuse. Child abuse, yes i can see it when the parent abuses the spanking situation for every little thing their kid did wrong. I'm for spanking my kid. If kids dont have some form of physical punishment then they think, if i do something wrong, all i have to do is sit in time out. I was spanked and i was put in time out. When i was put in time out, i had to go to my room, but I thought, im in my room i either fall asleep on my bed or just play with my toys in their quietly. Kids need some form of physical hurt so when they do something wrong, they will have to think twice before they face the consequences.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you here. There is a line between spanking and child abuse, it all just depends on the occasion. Child abuse seems to be an overly-dropped term anymore. Simply raise your voice to a child and you could have social services on your tail. Spanking is a tried and true form of discipline. Harsh actions come from serious misbehavior. Of course, other disciplinary actions should be used with spanking, such as time-outs or not getting to do something; spanking isn't the all-purpose answer here. It should be used appropriately. Honestly, I think it's just an experience a child has to go through. Everyone eventually learns right and wrong.
ReplyDeleteSee, I'm not really a fan of the spanking.
ReplyDeleteI never was spanked as a child. I think there
are other ways of punishment that are just
as effective. Like, taking toys away or making
a child sit in the corner for a half hour.
Those were my punishments, they always really
made me want to behave.
Wow! Hot topic, Colleen!
ReplyDeleteLike Brian, I am not a parent, so you'll have to take my opinion with a grain of salt.
Still, I'd like to think that I could parent without spanking--that I would be able to figure out what motivates my child and use that effectively. I see my siblings spanking sometimes, and honestly it doesn't seem to really make a difference. I think the issue there is consistency.
Like Colton, I think if a parents spanks, it should be for something MAJOR. I don't know. Every child is different and needs a different approach. Complicated!